Been There Done That (Mother to Many Troubled Teens)

"Mother" to Many Troubled Teens and Co-Founder/ House Mother at Mount Carmel Youth Ranch shares her pondering on what teenagers need from their parents to keep them off Drugs, Alcohol,sex and other dangerous behaviors that are a cause for concern.

Thursday, December 6, 2007

माउंट कार्मेल यूथ रंच मोठेर

I am a mom. The boys become part of the family! It's the only way to help them to change. They come to us angry,scared and usually coming down off drugs. They blame you for taking them into your program. So right away you are the enemy!! One of the questions I'm asked is "why would you want these boys on your ranch?" I have six children, and they were alot like the boys we bring into the program. I know the guilt feelings, the what did we do wrong questions. That feeling of fear and hopelessness about your son, that horrible feeling of failure when the police call or come to your door. That's why we are here to help. Our society is in such a fast pace, and these boys know only one gear, floored. So placed in the middle of nowhere, it gives them the chance to slow down, come off of drugs and see the world as it really is. The ranch setting gives them alot of new ways of looking at life. One of the ranch happenings, the boys really love is seeing the new baby calves born. They learn alot of vet skills, helping deliver the calves when their having trouble, they run the cow into the chute and pull the calf. What joy they feel saving a new baby. Of course they are trained by competent staff before they are allowed to do any of this. Safety first!! The reason I brought this up is because Ned and I were talking about his going home and he said this was one of the things he would miss, feeding the new baby calf, drying him off, and taking him back to his mom. He said He would be back to visit and maybe stay for calving season. He also said he would really miss the mountain cow camp, and the cattle drives home to the ranch. We are working on out processing Ned for his leaving us to go HOME. Ned was our top hand, after he was trained, in running tractors, with front end loaders, feed wagons, balers etc. I told him tonight that he has the great gift of being and doing whatever he puts his mind to. His family will be very proud of their son who is a fine young man.